Advice to youth/young adults? God only made one of
you, be yourself fully, completely and without shame.
The “millennial move” back home is becoming a new reality for many. The
current economy is not making it easy for
young people (and let’s face it, even older
people) to succeed financially as a solo act.
I’m sure many are relieved to know they can
head back home to their comfy bedrooms
and the much-needed money to help send
them into a better future.
From residence to your old room doesn’t
seem like a far commute. After all, it is your
But what if moving home means moving
there for the first time?
As a child of divorced parents, I always
lived with my mom and only saw my dad on
weekends and holidays. So when my little
speed bump to success came, I had to move
“back home” to live in a house with a man I
had never lived with before.
I wasn’t exactly jumping with happiness at
the prospect. Feeling like a total failure, I
cried for days.
My whole life I was told, “You are exactly
like your father.” We had never been forced
to test the theory, but here we were.
Like many dads, he had his way of doing
things and had no problem letting me
know it. At times I felt horrible about what
seemed like a list of stuff I couldn’t do right,
but other times I felt safe, supported and
I started to notice little things he would do
for me. When it dumped snow, he dug a
trench to my car and warmed it up. At the
store I saw the strawberry milk we bought
when I was a kid, and the next day it was
in the fridge. Winter tires on my car, my oil
changed, and washer fluid filled.
These little things softened me; I started to
see he was not criticizing but instructing
me. He was going to father me while I was
there, grown or not. My whole life I wanted
this, and now I got it. But it required me to
submit, and I will officially put in print that
my dad was right, a lot.
Does this sound familiar?
In need, I reached out, my father responded.
He offered help and grace. But it required
me to let him do it – unlike when we are
spiritually lost. In my case turning toward
Him (God) and him (my father) took a
massive failure, it turned it into healing,
help with the future and relationships.
Our God is big enough to see our needs
even when we don’t. We must trust and
submit to Him in order to heal. For me, it
was letting go and moving home. What is it
Words by Dagmar Morgan