Loneliness is a scary word. Though many of us wouldn’t admit it, loneliness is omething we’ve probably all felt or
dreaded feeling. If you’re experiencing it
now, take the courage to admit to yourself
that it’s real.
Maybe you’ve had a recent move to a new
city, or switched churches and don’t know
anyone yet. Or maybe you’ve experienced
the loss of a relationship.
One of the main ways we experience loneliness is feeling we don’t belong or we aren’t
being part of something. In the church
community, we have a habit of saying,
“But you’re never alone. God is always with
you!” There is an incredible truth to that,
but when we are in the depths of feeling
alone, such a blanket statement can be
hard to take in.
“Do not fear, for I am with you. Do not
be dismayed, for I am your God. I will
strengthen you and help you, I will uphold
you with my righteous right hand,” says
Isaiah 41: 10.
This is a promise. So, how does that pan
out when you feel your prayers aren’t being
The problem is we see a black and white
answer as to how God can help us feel
better. Maybe the answer is for you to
find new friends, to move back to your
old home, or get back to your high school
friends. Or maybe God is just asking you to
stay and be still in His presence.
Loneliness can actually draw you to God –
whether you feel He’s with you at the time
or not. When no one else can satisfy your
need to feel loved, validated or a part of
something, sometimes that’s when we are
drawn to the one and only relationship that
can satisfy all those needs.
Although people usually talk about
loneliness as something to be avoided at all
costs, actually loneliness is useful. Feeling
alone is an opportunity to allow God to
fill you more than you have ever been in
your life. It’s an opportunity to experience
the perfection of relationship with God,
who would do anything to encourage and
develop your character to become more like
Christ – even allowing you to feel alone.
In that place of loneliness, choose to trust.
Trust that God will fill your needs. Trust
that He is enough, even when you can’t feel
Him there. Trust that in His timing He will
restore you. In the meantime, learn from
the pain of loneliness and draw closer to
“And after you have suffered a little while,
the God of all grace, who has called you to
His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself
restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish
you” (1 Peter 5: 6-10). "It’s an opportunity
the perfection of
relationship with God"
God can work with that
Described as genuine, kind-to-a-fault, and
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