Here’s a little insight on how Facebook
works. By far, one of the most important
statuses someone can ever update is
their relationship status. The moment a
status changes from “single” to “in a re-
lationship” or better yet to “engaged” or
“married,” it’s one of the most significant
social media moments where they’ve
got our attention and “likes.”
It seems like relationships are always
trending on the minds of young people.
People will even go to the extent of lying
about being in a relationship to feel im-
portant – it’s crazy! We live in a society
that promotes “how to get a man in 10
days,” “how to dress on fleek for your
crush to notice,” and creates weekly
celebrations of “Man Crush Mondays
(MCM) and Woman Crush Wednesdays
(WCW).” So it makes sense that young
people want to rush into a relationship.
But a recent conversation I had with a
friend who is newly married showed me
that love isn’t something to rush into. He
told me straight out, “The ring doesn’t
Many times we rush into romantic
relationships thinking everything is
going to change, that somehow the
temptations we’ve faced and the strug-
gles we’ve had all end once we’re in a
relationship with somebody.
A ring may give you the opportunity to
change your Facebook status and your
last name, but it doesn’t change who
you are as a person (your character,
strengths or weaknesses), because that
comes from within you.
A ring doesn’t
but my relationship
with God does
You can say the same thing about
school. In most cases, the type of stu-
dent you are can follow you throughout
your education. The studious, high
achieving Grade 8 student is usually
the high achiever in Grade 12 and into
Our personalities, self-esteem and
character are built in us and make up
whom we are. And we may need to
remind ourselves that who we are in
relationship to God is more important
than any Facebook status or any human
My relationship with God allows for
His love to reveal who I am. As I recognize who He is, I recognize who I am.
God is the best and truest mirror out
there, because He reflects a truthful
image of who I am.
A ring doesn’t change anything,
but my relationship with God does. It
allows me to see my weaknesses and
my strengths. As a result, I am more
equipped to deal with my character,
strengths and weaknesses wisely when
I am in Christ. If I don’t know me, I can’t
expect others to.
Before you start singing “you can put
a ring on it” or looking to have a relationship with that guy or girl you think
is cute, consider these questions and
answer them honestly:
DOESN'T CHANGE A THING
By: Rosemond Ennin
Do I have a genuine mutual relationship with God? Or is my
relationship with God solely
based on what I can get?
STAGE OF LIFE
What season/stage of life am I
currently in? What does God’s
Word say about this stage?
WEAKNESSES & STRENGTHS
What are at least three weaknesses and strengths I have?
What can they teach me about
getting into relationships?
DO I HAVE IDOLS?
Have I ever made anything outside
of God an idol in my life? How can
I avoid having a relationship as an
What easily tempts me to
stray away from God? How
does God’s Word help to
You’ll notice that all of these questions
require you to sit and think it through with
God. He alone knows us well enough to
uncover the deep truths about who we
are (Jeremiah 1: 5; 29: 11).
When we rush into a relationship, we can forfeit knowing who we are and the intimacy of knowing Christ. Life is more than
just changing your Facebook status and getting likes. Your relationship with God will help reveal that there’s more to life than
superficial social media satisfaction
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