But, I have good news.
That longing is meant to be there, your husband/boyfriend,
job, material things will not be able to fill it, nor will attempting to achieve it in the world. It doesn’t seem fair does it? You
are doing everything right, but it still feels like it’s not enough.
But what if I told you that God created that longing in you.
Not so that you would suffer, but so that you will continue to
long for Him and be driven to seek Him; it’s a spiritual longing that only He can fill. We are built to worship and connect
with Him. He created us with a special place that only He can
have. Isn’t that just mind blowing?!
I had been running around the world looking for a man, or my
job, or my belongings to give me all of that. No wonder they
all fell short; no man can take the place of God! I almost feel
foolish as I re-read it, but yet so many of us feel that longing
and try to fill it with dating or being focused on getting married to get rid of it. Embrace it. It is part of your DNA. You are
built to seek and be sought after and called back to God’s
side all the days of your life. How amazing!
Once I realized the longing was a gift to keep me connected
with God and not a curse to be forever dissatisfied, I was
changed. It made me understand that there is so much
mystery to the way I am created, and the key is connecting
with God to find out more about who I am. Captivated by His
Captivating is the crash course for women and how we tick.
It’s a celebration of all those feelings we have inside because
we all know there are a lot of feelings in there, feelings that
we judge very harshly, try to shove down, avoid, or destroy. If
you need some clarity about relationships, your emotions, or
just a good read, grab Captivating; it will help. Which reminds
me, I am due for a Captivating re-read, but I will have to wait
to get it back from my friend.
By: Dagmar Morgan
There are books that come to us and after we’ve read them we
put them aside and move on. Then, there are books that come
and stay. Books that bless you, books that you just have to lend
to a friend but never forget to ask for it back because you’ve lined
the pages with notes, dog eared sections to return to, and worked
the spine in just right. It may travel from bookshelf to bookshelf
and life-to-life, but it is one that you always bring back home. The
treasure that with each new read deepens your understanding
and your walk with God. This book for me is Captivating by Stasi
and John Eldredge.
Now, I know this is not a new book. In fact, it wasn’t even a new
release when a gorgeous woman of God named Laura gifted it
to me a few years ago. It was such a kind gift, and well needed,
although at the time I didn’t know it. It was not entirely the kind
of book I was used to reading and if left up to me, I would have
passed it over entirely. It didn’t have that academic feel to it that
I look for in books so; I let it sit on the shelf for a while before I
opened it. Then, after a heart wrenching break-up, I was hungry
for God and seeking any wisdom to steer me through, I decided
to give it a go. And it turns out that “academic” doesn’t always
apply to the heart, which is the whole point of the book! It’s about
getting to your heart, understanding what really, really makes you
tick as a young woman of God; nonetheless, any age woman
could and should read it.
Captivating names things and feelings that I had, but didn’t know
how to name or identify correctly. It takes you back to the little girl
inside, all the feelings and hopes and dreams she had before the
world came in and changed her. It is the field guide to a woman’s
heart. Delving into our desires to be romanced, to be part of an
adventure story, to embrace how we are built, and not to see our
vulnerability or insecurities as defeats or faults, but as celebrations. There are so many lessons in Captivating that it is hard to
pinpoint or highlight a few, so instead let me get a little personal
with you to show you just how powerful this book can be.
In my early twenties, I had this deep longing, which, if I could give
it a voice it would say, “I need a husband, I need to be connected
to someone. I need to be cherished, to belong. I have this feeling
inside that I can’t fill, so if I find someone maybe they can fill it.”
At times, it was so deep and unending it felt like a void, a big cavern, so long and empty I could not stand it. I think a lot of young
women feel that way. We want our fairy tale and we are just wait-ing around for it to happen. We long for our husbands to ride into
our life story and sweep us off our feet, to fill that feeling inside.
As young women, we think that “the void” will be filled with that
partner connection. But then our relationships fall short, we are
human, we struggle, or worse yet, they are great but we still have
that longing. Why is it still there? I have all these things I thought
I wanted but still feel like there’s more I need. We begin to think
about satisfying that need with fantasies, distractions, money,
stuff, activities, and social media. We need something more but
can’t find it, or even really name it and nothing makes it stop.