There’s a quote that hangs on a wall in our home. You’ve likely heard of the serenity prayer: “Grant me
the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the
One thing we can’t change is change. Change can come in many forms in our lives. It might come like a
tidal wave or creep along incrementally like a glacier. It might come in the form of devastating tragedy,
difficult choices, broken relationships, or even new opportunities.
I’ve experienced change in many ways. I had just moved to the city after graduating from high school.
I found myself alone in a new environment. I was without friends or family members close by. Life was
moving much faster than I was able to handle at the time. My relocation and the beginning of university
brought dramatic changes along with fear and loneliness. Everything seemed to be changing in such a
short period of time. I tried to cope the best I could, but I resisted the changes by isolating myself even
more from my new university and surroundings. I desperately tried to prevent and stop change from
happening in my life. Instead of resisting, we should allow change to unfold. Acknowledging and accepting
change means allowing it to happen when it unfolds rather than approaching change from a place of denial
or of resistance. When you accept, embrace, and learn from change, you inevitably grow stronger. The
ability to continuously accept change allows you to become as solid as a rock in the midst of violent storms
all around you - even when you feel afraid.
Sometimes when we go through major changes we think we are dealing with something no one else can possibly understand or
that no one else is going through. No matter what you’re going through or what you’re feeling, there are others that can
empathize with you. You’re not alone and ultimately, none of us are separate from the Creator.
Things change all the time and we resist it. Our day changes and our relationships change. We ourselves are changing constantly.
All of this can be hard to deal with. For me, the pain of change is not being in control.
How do we cope with pain of change? We can cope with this pain in numerous ways. Maybe we get angry and yell. Maybe we
drink or do drugs, eat junk food, watch TV or find other distractions. We can find positive ways to cope and we can learn to shift
our perspective to embrace changes in our lives.
Give yourself permission to be vulnerable. Some of us like to project an image of being strong and fearless, but sometimes we’re
not. Maybe we’re scared of change. Maybe we feel like we’re exposed. Vulnerability is just part of who we are as people. There’s
always learning and growth that can come when we allow our true selves to be seen. When you allow people to really see you,
they can help.
When we scroll through Instagram and marvel over the adventurous and perfectly filtered lives of our friends, or when our to-do
lists at work suffocate us or at home, our minds start to harp on what we wish we had. We should appreciate what we have in
our lives and we can focus our attention to being grateful on a daily basis. During seasons of change and always, we need to be
thankful and grateful for all that we have and all that God has provided rather than discontent or grumbling about our
circumstances. A few months ago, I started a writing exercise. In the morning before the start of each day, I flip open my journal
and write down three things I’m grateful for. Sometimes I also take time to write about what’s on my mind, in my dreams, or on
my plate for the day. I challenge you to do the same.
“I am the Lord; I do not change” (Malachi 3: 6).
Although our lives and circumstances continue to change, God is always the same. We can trust Him not to turn against us. His
love is unchanging. He never leaves us or forsakes us.
“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever” (Hebrews 13: 8).